Good Parents Do Themselves
Out of a Job

By Paul Parkin

As children they looked up to you as Parents, they respected and learned from you. That may seem like a long time ago. As a teenager they may go against everything you say or do, that look in their eye that used to demonstrate the respect they had for you and your opinions has been replaced by a despising look, what happened to your child?

The simple answer is they are doing what you wanted them to do, to learn and become an individual in their own right. Even though we as Parents want our Children to go it alone, we can feel a sense of loss when it begins to happen, we like to feel needed and wanted, often we as Parents can feel abandoned when our Children reach their teens.

So what does a Teenager need, well contrary to what they will tell you, they actually want and need Boundaries, but they also need your love and support more than they ever did. Being a Teenager is a tough task and it will take your combined efforts to get them through those tough years.

Parents have to adapt, instead of talking we have to listen more, not only to what your Teenager says, but also to what they do not say. We as Parents have to pick our moments carefully, know when to listen and when to talk, when to give them space and when to put an arm around them. We also need to know when to be firm and tell them what is acceptable, we do this by talking about consequences of actions and behaviors.

Often things get out of hand and talking to a Professionally qualified family Counselor can help, you will see where you are going wrong and be given.

Paul Parkin - Humanistic Online Therapy and Counseling http://www.counselling-online.co.uk
"A journey of a Thousand miles begins with a single step".

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