Emotionally Intelligent Child

The emotionally intelligent child has a distinct edge over his or hers fellow peers in today’s fast pace world. Research has shown that this child will turn into a responsible adult that excels in the personal, social and professional arena.

He will be more resilient to life’s ups and downs and generally have better health both mentally and physically due to the lower levels of stress in his life.

Emotional Intelligence refers to the ability to not only understand your own feelings and needs but also to have compassion for others. Problem solving is centered on a deep understanding and respect for both yourself and others to bring about a win-win result for any scenario.

The emotionally intelligent child becomes an adult who is able to delay gratification to achieve goals and desired outcomes.

According to the research the emotionally intelligent child (or any emotionally intelligence person) has it all. When I first researched emotional intelligence it was for a management assignment that I had for the university course I was doing. It was the easiest paper I ever researched; it took me no time to write the paper and it was also the paper that I got my highest ever mark for.

So why am I telling you all this, because the reason why the paper was so easy for me to write was because I felt that the basis of emotional intelligence was intuitive. In other words it was what most of us already know, but lacked ways to express it or develop it.

So what does it mean to be emotionally intelligence? In simple terms it just means that you are aware of your own emotions and those of others. This knowledge then guides you to produce results that are pleasing for you in every sense.

You feel good about the results on a personal level and a moral or spiritual level. But most of all, you are able to communication your goals and vision to inspire and help others. In short you have great social skills or people skills or what ever you want to call it.

What I like best about this approach is that we have already developed our social skills. From the moment we were born we have been interacting with our very own little society. Through trial and error we have developed ways to communicate with others, interact with others and to work with others to get where we are today.

And even though we might not have the level of effectiveness from our social skills that we would like, we do have the building blocks firmly in place. All we have to do now is to build and sculpture these blocks into our own life masterpieces.

As we learn to develop our skills to bring up an emotionally intelligent child so will our own emotional intelligence improve. This in turn will have the delightful side effect of strengthening the relationship between child, parent and the family as a whole. Okay now I know I have just got a bit excited about this concept but from my point of view it embodies everything that I have in my parenting guide and it can only make my family life even better. Click here to read more on why parents should build emotional intelligence in themselves and their child

But it does mean that when these disagreement or challenges occur you and your family will be equipped with some pretty powerful arsenal to bring about positive resolutions.

How to build an emotionally intelligent child

The first point is to realize that you will achieve your goal of having an emotionally intelligent child a lot quicker if you also embrace and learn these techniques.

Below are five principles of emotional intelligence. These five key components have been adapted from two books on the subject. The first is John Gottman’s The Heart of Parenting and the second is Emotionally Intelligence Parenting: How to raise a self-disciplined, responsible, socially skilled child” by Maurice Elias, Steven Tobias and Brian Friedlander.

Click on any of the topics below to read more about them and learn ways to incorporate these skills into your parenting.

• Teaching Empathy
  
• Strengthening the Parent Child Bond through Emotions
  
• Validating Child Emotions to Boost Your Child's Self Confidence
  
• Child Emotions How to Correctly Label them to Empower Your Child
• Encourage Child Emotional Development by Taking the Time to Listen
  
• Goal Setting for Kids
  
• Goal Setting for Kids, Effective Problem Solving
  
• Goal Setting for Kids, How to give Feedback
  
• Teaching Emotional Intelligence, when Not to do it

• Articles on Child Developmental Stages
• Articles on how to Communicate with your child

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